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Woman Trespassed On My Yard To Demand I Stop Mowing And Critiqued My Clothes
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Woman Trespassed On My Yard To Demand I Stop Mowing And Critiqued My Clothes

Yesterday I was cutting my grass around 3 PM. I have a corner property and a double lot so it takes about 40 minutes. I was well over halfway done when a group of parents showed up to wait for the school bus. For some context - they stand in my yard as there is no sidewalk, as they have for years without asking. I really don’t care if they do this, it makes no difference to me as long as they don’t leave any litter behind. I had my headphones in and was working on a different part of the grass when a woman tapped on my shoulder and asked if I would stop cutting my grass, as she was waiting for the bus and wanted to get a video of her child getting off the bus since it was the first day of school. I asked what time it comes and she said in 5-10 minutes. At that point I told her I would keep an eye out for the bus, and stop when I saw it so that there wouldn’t be a lawn mower in the background of her video. She then proceeded to *tell* me that I needed to stop until after the bus got there, as the lawn mower is too loud, and her and the other parents were trying to talk. I told her politely that I had to get this done as I needed to get dinner started for my family, and I was working away from them so it’ll get quieter. She got very angry and told me that I had no right to make this much noise, and that she was calling in a noise complaint about me. She also told me I should “dress more modest when the whole neighborhood can see me”. It was 27 degrees (Celsius) and I was wearing a tank top and shorts. At that point I told her that she was being unreasonable, and that if it was that much of a nuisance, her and her friends could wait somewhere else, and continued cutting my grass until I saw the bus pull onto my street, when I shut off the lawn mower. So AITA for continuing to cut my grass? TL;DR: woman waiting for school bus on my property wanted me to shut off my lawnmower because it was too loud for her to talk with other parents.

Clara Jensen
I Heard My Neighbors Brutally Berating Their Kids So I Called Child Services and They Disappeared
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I Heard My Neighbors Brutally Berating Their Kids So I Called Child Services and They Disappeared

I (32F) live in a quiet suburban neighborhood, and overall, things are pretty peaceful. Most of my neighbors are nice enough, but I don’t really know anyone all that well. One family that lives next door has two young kids Max (12) and Lily (10) and their parents seem like regular folks. I’ve talked to them a few times, but we’re not exactly close. Last week, though, something happened that I can’t get out of my head, and now I’m questioning if I did the right thing. It was a Saturday afternoon, and I was in my backyard doing some gardening when I heard loud yelling coming from next door. At first, I thought it was just one of those normal arguments you hear sometimes, you know? Maybe a parent telling the kids to clean up or something like that. But then I heard something that stopped me cold Max, the older boy, started crying out, and it wasn’t just a normal cry. It sounded like real distress. I couldn’t make out every word, but I could hear the mom yelling at him. She was calling him "stupid" and "worthless" because he hadn’t finished his lunch. She kept telling him he was "useless" and "couldn’t do anything right." I thought maybe she was just having a bad moment, but then I heard her scream, "Why are you so dumb?!" I could feel my heart racing. It sounded so harsh, like she wasn’t just frustrated with him, but genuinely angry. Then, I heard the dad’s voice he was yelling at Lily, the little girl. He was calling her "a disappointment" and telling her she would "never be anything." I couldn’t make out everything, but it was so cruel, and honestly, it broke my heart. I could hear them both crying, and it just didn’t sit right with me. As much as I tried to shake it off, I couldn’t ignore how scared they sounded. And then… I heard a loud thud, like something hitting the wall or maybe the floor, followed by Max screaming in pain. It wasn’t a regular "ouch" or anything like that. It sounded like a real reaction to something that hurt. I don’t know what happened after that, but I knew at that moment that I couldn’t just let it go. I called child services immediately. I didn’t know what else to do, and honestly, I was terrified for those kids. I wasn’t going to go over there, especially not without knowing what could happen. I told them everything I heard about the verbal abuse, the way they were talking to the kids, and the thud I’d heard. I know it wasn’t much, but it was all I had. They said they’d look into it, but obviously, they didn’t give me any details. A few days later, the family moved out. I don’t know if it was connected to the report or if it was just a coincidence, but I haven’t seen them since. And I can’t help but wonder if I did the right thing. I didn’t want to get anyone in trouble or make things worse, but at the same time, I couldn’t just ignore it. Some of my neighbors have been asking questions about why I called child services. A few have thanked me, saying that they’ve suspected something was off but didn’t know how to handle it. But others have been a little more judgmental, saying I overreacted and that it wasn’t my business. I’m second-guessing myself now. Did I overstep? Should I have tried talking to them first before calling anyone? I honestly don’t know. I just wanted to help those kids, but now I’m wondering if I did more harm than good. So, AITA for reporting my neighbors? I’m just hoping I did the right thing, but I feel really conflicted about it all.

Jonas Bergström
My pregnant girlfriend is throwing away my sentimental things and redecorating my home without asking
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My pregnant girlfriend is throwing away my sentimental things and redecorating my home without asking

Throwaway account bc she’s also on Reddit. I (29M) have been with my girlfriend (24F) for 2 years now. We have not lived together before, but she’s currently 18 weeks pregnant so I suggested that she move in with me once her lease was up. It ended at the end of June, so she’s been living with me for almost 3 weeks now. While we get along well and overall living together has been great, I’ve noticed that she’s started to change things around my apartment. She only brought a few things over since my apartment is fully furnished so I understand her need to make it feel more like her space. Everything in my apartment is mid century modern, it’s a mid century modern building and I bought the apartment because of how much I love that style. Some of the things that she’s suggesting or bringing into the apartment absolutely does not go with that vibe. She’s taken down some of my artwork and replaced it, cleared off shelves I curated and put her knickknacks on it, went through my pantry and cleared out things she thought were unhealthy, all without asking me. She works from home while I work in the office so she has a lot more time at the apartment than I do. I just wish she would run things by me first. I’m an architect, she’s an editor and doesn’t have that same designer eye which clearly shows. What really bothered me was that she started to throw some things away without asking. I went to take out the trash and saw that some birthday cards I kept were in there. When I asked about it, she said she was just getting rid of “clutter” but her stuff is more like clutter and mine has actual sentimental value. I told her to stop touching things in the apartment and she pointed out that she should have a say because she lives there which I agree with but she doesn’t run anything by me. Now she’s being very avoidant and passive aggressive. So, AITA?

Anya Petrova
My boyfriend is forcing me to give up the only thing I can drink and I'm dehydrating
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My boyfriend is forcing me to give up the only thing I can drink and I'm dehydrating

I (26F) have been drinking diluted summer fruits juice all my life because I hate drinking water. When I do try drinking water I physically wretch due to the anxiety it gives me trying to drink it. So I stay hydrated by drinking diluted cordial. When I met my current partner (34M, let's call him Jim) I was drinking 30% cordial 70% water, which I admit now was strong. About 6 months into my relationship with Jim, he confessed he didn't like me drinking the juice because it made my breath smell bad (of the juice), it stopped me trying new foods and it stopped us from travelling cheap because we would have to pay for baggage just so I can take the juice on holiday. He even compared it to an addiction and how he was able to quit smoking so I can quit this. We decided to compromise and 1 year later I had reduced it down to 5% cordial. I was able to take my juice in mini aeroplane bottles and I had to admit I was tasting food better. However Jim was still not happy and we keep getting into fights about how 'disgusting' it is and it is putting him off wanting to kiss me. I can't even have other fruit flavoured drinks because Jim says it smells and tastes too similar. So I tried to give it up for him. It has been a month of attempting to drink sugar water. I am getting panic attacks and dehydrated because I'm not drinking enough. I am considering going back to the cordial because of this but I am worried I'd be letting myself and Jim down.

Clara Jensen
Teenager Scolded For Not Reacting To Half-Sister's Party Celebrating Parents' Divorce
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Teenager Scolded For Not Reacting To Half-Sister's Party Celebrating Parents' Divorce

My parents announced two months ago that they're getting divorced. I (16f) did kinda see it coming but it still makes me sad. My half sister (25f) has been celebrating ever since she heard. She cheered when our dad told her. She has gloated in my mom's and my faces. She told mom she can forget about being a part of her life or going to her wedding now, half sister is engaged. My half sister always hated that dad remarried after her mom died, when she was 5, and she said she never wanted to have my mom or me around. She was always praying for the end of the marriage. She used to try and break them up in the past. Dad would get so mad and frustrated with her but she never let the dream die and now her dream has come true. The last time mom or I saw my half sister was when dad was moving out. She stopped by briefly and she gloated so hard. This was also when she told mom she was no longer invited to the wedding and no longer going to be a part of her life. My mom was upset. Despite my half sister's dislike of her and constant disrespect, my mom loves her and she's sad to see it all end before they had a chance to be even friends. Though my mom always wanted to be family to my half sister. My maternal aunt saw my sister had posted on social media a party she threw and it turned out she was celebrating the divorce. My parents were upset. I could shrug it off because I knew she'd be so happy about this and her celebration does not surprise me at all. But my parents asked me why I'm so calm and collected about this. I told them I expected her reaction and I always knew she wanted this badly. They said they would expect me to be upset. I told them maybe if I expected different from her but I didn't. I pointed out that everyone in her comments knew too. There were loads about how she always called it and how glad they were she got this win. To me it's so dumb. My aunt confronted me afterward and told me I should be making a bigger deal out of it because it looks like I don't care about the weird and over the top reaction from my half sister. She said mom must feel like I don't care about her heartache at all. That it's rough to see a child she loved and helped raise cheer on the fact she's getting divorced from dad. AITA?

Jonas Bergström
AITA for helping my sister walk when everyone thinks she is exaggerating?
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AITA for helping my sister walk when everyone thinks she is exaggerating?

Hello, I am 18F and my sister 12F has been complaining of body aches for a week now--she says all of her legs hurt in different places at different times + back hurts + head hurts, with ears getting blocked + hands as well. It really seems like her whole body is nothing but a ball of pain. How I help her walk is that I let her put her arm around my shoulders, while her available arm grips onto my arm. It seems to genuinely hurt her to stand, and she starts flopping even while trying to stand straight without hurt. The issue seems to be that sometimes she says that it hurts to simply lift her leg on the bed, whereas other times she does that without issue, and also twists in her sleep. (My father saw this through the camera-- she was moving around throughout her sleep.) We went to the doctor finally today, and he also seemed to agree that there was nothing too wrong. No arthritis in the blood report, nothing obviously wrong. He is my father's friend, I think? All this, and her general upbeat nature when she is sitting and playing with our cousin, has solidified our family's belief in the fact that she is faking. They think that the idea that she will get hurt and fall down is making her not put effort into trying to walk, and me being beside her ready to help is not helping. My father in particular has said all sorts of hurtful things, such as how she is faking to get attention from ME, that it's 2001% my fault, etc. He also did this very frustrating thing where he mocked the way that my sister screams when she tries to walk. (She scrunches up her face and screams "ahhh" or "ooh" when it hurts, and sometimes my father just laughs? Once he held a cane and imitated the noises, saying "omg i am hurting so bad" while laughing.) I really don't want to leave her alone in the room with my parents only, I think they have been very frustrating in this situation, as described above, but not leaving when they tell me to seems to just get added to my laundry list of flaws in this situation. I did leave once, when she first complained, and I returned to her crying and asking me why I abandoned her. It breaks my hurt to see her like this. She cries very often due to how much it hurts, due to not feeling stable when I try to make her hold me in a way my parents and relatives think is better. It seems like if I follow their instructions, I am betraying my sister. But I don't want to stunt her or hurt her, especially when the doctor also said her to just put in more effort to walk. Am I the asshole?

Elise Dubois
AITAH for separating my finances from my husband because he keeps lending money to his parents?
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AITAH for separating my finances from my husband because he keeps lending money to his parents?

We've been together for over 9 years, and until this year, the thought of separating our finances never even crossed my mind. I'm generally frugal, and he's more of a spender. In the beginning, it didn’t bother me, as we had two incomes, and even though we weren’t rich, life was comfortable. His family often borrowed money from us, and they rarely paid it back. Personally, I don’t lend money to anyone, not even family, but I never stopped him from doing it. A few years into our marriage, my husband was in a serious accident, and since then, he hasn’t been able to work. As a result, I became the sole breadwinner. Recently, after four long years, he was finally approved for disability benefits. During those years, our savings were depleted, and we were on the brink of losing everything. Our debts kept piling up, and there was nothing I could do about it. When he finally received a back payment for the entire time he’d been waiting for disability benefits, I asked him for just one thing—to pay off his car loan, for which I had already paid over $45,000 in the last few years, and maybe save some of the money. He did neither of these things. Instead, he blew through the cash, lent $8,000 to his family, and didn’t contribute a cent to our debts. Meanwhile, I had managed to save a bit from my salary, but it wasn’t much. My plan was to save enough to pay off some of our debts. He knew I was saving for this purpose. About a month ago, I noticed that $600 had disappeared from our savings account. I asked him what happened, and he admitted he lent it to his parents. I asked when they’d pay it back, because I needed it soon for bills, and he replied that he didn’t know when they’d be able to. I was furious, not just because of the money, but because he didn’t ask me, we didn’t discuss it. He acted behind my back, knowing I’d be mad and would have said no. We had a huge fight, and I hoped that after that he’d stop. But he didn’t. Yesterday, I checked our account and saw another $900 missing. Again, it went to his parents. I’m beyond angry. I told him that I was done with his parents. I’ll pay half of the bills, buy groceries, and that’s it. If he wants to give all his disability payments to his parents, fine, but I’m not going to work 60 hours a week just for him to give our money away. So, AITAH for going to the bank, withdrawing all the money I had saved, and opening a new account that he has no access to? He says I’m being an asshole and that I should want his parents to be happy. I’d love to see them happy, but I’m not willing to fund it with my own well-being.

Jonas Bergström
New Homeowner Bans SIL After She Stayed for 53 Days, Started Redecorating Their Guest Bedroom, and Displayed Framed Photos of Herself
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New Homeowner Bans SIL After She Stayed for 53 Days, Started Redecorating Their Guest Bedroom, and Displayed Framed Photos of Herself

I F27 and my husband M27 got married a year back. We had been dating for 10 years and most of his family knew about us. I went to his sisters wedding because I was invited and it was a nice experience. I have grown up to be very social and career oriented and really value education. My husband is the same and that’s how we really connected with each other. My SIL however has a different mindset. She got married at a very young age and chose to have a family (she has one daughter) and chose to not pursue a college degree, however is a total brat and has always been said yes for everything (for context, she had a 3 day wedding in Italy with 120 guests). She doesn’t hate me but doesn’t love me either and the feelings are mutual. We just don’t connect. We recently took a new house and threw a housewarming for all his family and everyone loved the house. We have an extra guest bedroom, just incase. His sister absolutely loved the house (which she said like 50 times) and said she would move some of her daughter’s stuff here (in the extra room) because we have too much space and she doesn’t want to carry it whenever she comes. We live in New York and she comes from New Mexico. I really didn’t get the logic and politely declined and said we have a lot of guests coming every now and then and do not have spare space for your daughter’s clothes or toys. She wasn’t happy but I didn’t care. It’s been 4 months since we bought the house and she’s come a total of 53 days (yes I counted!) Most of the time she comes unannounced and says “I was visiting someone or I was in the neighbourhood”. What kind of person would fly from New Mexico to New York to be in the neighbourhood? Anyway, slowly I realised she had started putting up her pictures and redecorating our guest bedroom and lost my sh*t. I told my husband and he said I’m overthinking and she’s just trying to be friends with me. When she left last week, I packed a box of all her things which she very conveniently “forgets” in our guest bedroom and shipped it to her place. She got very very angry and called me and started screaming at me. I told her to stop over reacting and stop considering our house as hers and that she’s no longer welcome. I told my husband everything and that I would not entertain her anymore. He agreed to what I said and told his sister that she needs to stop doing this or she’s no longer welcome. She called my in-laws and literally every person we know and told them we were being like a*holes. Our phones have been buzzing with texts and calls saying how inconsiderate we are and that what we did was wrong. I told everyone if you’re so interested, keep her in your house and stop bothering me. Edit: I see a lot of people writing that she’s running from an abusive husband. She’s not. She got married at 17 because she was pregnant with her daughter and got divorced 3 years later. She lives with her parents in a 5 bedroom townhouse with no job. She loves the “idea” of living in New York.

Jonas Bergström
AITA for leaving a bad review after my cake order was canceled and u was reimbursed with a grocery store gift card?
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AITA for leaving a bad review after my cake order was canceled and u was reimbursed with a grocery store gift card?

So there is a woman in our community who has a home bakery and she decorates cakes. I contacted her in November about making a cake for my mother's 60th birthday in January. We confirmed the design and flavor as well as the price and date. We spoke again 3 weeks prior to confirm all details and I paid her the $100 she requested. The night before my mother's birthday she confirmed my cake would be ready by supper time. This morning she messaged me and told me that she was unable to obtain the main cake topper because, as she claimed, her friend who's store was making it for her, decided not to come in to work that day and she wanted to know what I wanted to do. I asked her if she could improvise something and asked asked how much of the cake was ready and how far in to it she was so we could figure out what to do for the design. To clarify, I ordered a chocolate cake with chocolate chunks made to look like a record player with a Queen album on top. The item whe couldn't get was the print of the album cover to put on the record. I thought maybe she could just write the word Queen and maybe make a simple drawing or something. She never responded about the cake or acknowledged that I still wanted it. Instead she responded saying "I don't do refunds except for Sobeys (a grocery store) gifts cards so you can see if they can make the cake for you." I told her I can't get to Sobeys today and asked if she can't give me my money back could I at least get a visa or Mastercard gift card so I could get to Dairy Queen or another closer store but she said no and refused to negotiate despite the fact that I didn't cancel the order and was prepared to give her creative license over the design. I got the gift card from her, which was clearly something she had gotten for Christmas and not something she had as compensation for clients. I ended up selling it for $80 so that I could but a simple cake from Dairy Queen and we left her a bad but honest review. Now she is upset and can't understand why we aren't satisfied. The fact is, of she had already gotten the ingredients and was working on the cake she wouldn't have just abandoned the project at the last minute and offered a refund. As her own mother said on Facebook, basically you forgot and had no money to pay her back. I don't know of she really forgot, because she had spoken to me the day before but she clearly either couldn't or didn't want to make that cake today. She feels since she gave me a gift card for the value of the cake that the issue is resolved and we shouldn't be upset. We feel she handled the situation badly and deserved the bad review on her page. Are we wring or should we take down or reviews? Edit: UPDATE! The gift card she gave me was empty. I contacted her and she initially blocked my. I then posted to her company page which prompted her to messge me saying she gave the wrong gift card and to come get the right one. I told her to sell it and give me my money. The said "I'll send you $90and that's it because you're family caused me too much trouble." And told me to leave her alone after that. My son just got turned away at rhe cash because out card declined and we had to use our credit card. She insisting I take the gift card or $90 cash. I'm looking in to small claims court now

Luca Moretti
WIBTA if I left a nasty review for a place that didn’t treat our nanny well?
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WIBTA if I left a nasty review for a place that didn’t treat our nanny well?

I'm signed up for a local toddler group in my community. We pay a yearly membership fee and each month, a different class is offered (music, art, yoga, etc). The meeting times are every 2nd Thursday of the month from 10am-11:30am. I work during this time but my daughter is home with our nanny. Today was the first class and I'm disgusted at how our nanny was treated. According to nanny this is how things went down: At the beginning of class they had everyone go around and introduce themselves and their kid. Our nanny obviously identified herself as little one's nanny and that's when things went sour. She said the leader looked surprised and said “oh are there any other nannies in here?” Everyone else was a mom so our nanny felt singled out. First strike. Then later they have some free time towards the end where the kids were just playing with each other. The leader approaches our nanny and says this is ||.....👇

Clara Jensen
AITAH for giving my daughter’s teacher a low rating because of her comment on my daughter’s “modesty”?
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AITAH for giving my daughter’s teacher a low rating because of her comment on my daughter’s “modesty”?

My daughter (14F) recently wore a sleeveless top and skirt (within dress code) to school. That night, we got a message from her homeroom teacher saying: “Just a heads up, some more modest clothing might help her avoid unwanted attention.” That was it. No concern about rules, no behavioral issues, just... that. I was furious. I emailed the school principal and left a scathing parent portal review for the teacher, flagging the comment as inappropriate and borderline victim-blamey. Now other parents in the PTA group chat are saying I “overreacted” and that she’s “an old-school type who meant well.” My daughter is embarrassed and said the teacher pulled her aside to say, “Your mom made a big deal out of nothing.” Did I go too far? AITAH for standing up for my daughter?

Elise Dubois
AITA for leaving a really nasty air bnb review?
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AITA for leaving a really nasty air bnb review?

My husband and I stayed in an Airbnb while visiting my sister and her family. I made dinner our last night for everyone at the Airbnb. It was in an outdoor area where we grilled. There were five of us total: four adults and a seven-year-old. My husband received a random call on his phone from the Airbnb hosts, who claimed that we were violating their policy against parties. We explained it was just a family dinner, which led to a heated argument where we called the owner a creep for watching us. The owner attempted to charge us $500 for a party. In response, we left a one-star review calling him a spying creep, which ultimately got his listing removed from the platform. We also disputed the charges with our credit card company, filed a police report regarding the surveillance, and got a full refund. The host has since emailed us, claiming we destroyed his source of income, to which I sarcastically suggested he work for the CIA. He is now threatening to sue us.

Elise Dubois
AITA for reiterating my house rules to my in-laws
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AITA for reiterating my house rules to my in-laws

My husband and I take our shoes off in our house. Every time my mother-in-law has visited our house she has found a way to walk through the house in her shoes. She is not just forgetting--she is making conscious decisions (I won't go into detail, but it's not just forgetfulness). The last time she was in our house was 2 years ago Thanksgiving. She purposefully walked through the living room in shoes. She hasn't been back to our house due to the pandemic, but even before COVID I was adamant with my husband that I would have a serious discussion with her before she could come in again. The in-laws want to come for Thanksgiving this year. I sent them a message reiterating that they need to follow this house rule or we will be meeting them in hotels and AirBnBs from now on. Here's an excerpt (included since tone is important): "I have to remind everyone that we take our shoes off in the house. No exceptions. That means every single time, you wear shoes outside, no shoes inside. I will have a chair by the door so you can sit to put your shoes off and on. 99{39ca6eb452c0ce4419cd73a8f3bd18a23fe95ab4febb092bc2ab1b542eeea82f} of our guests respect this rule, and I hope I can have a stress-free Thanksgiving knowing that my guests respect the one house rule that I ask them to follow. Last Thanksgiving we hosted, I felt I had to be constantly vigilant, and that is stressful and means that I don't enjoy the holiday with my in-law family. I hope to have a peaceful, stress-free holiday, and that we can continue to invite guests into our home. If not, we will need to meet people who wear shoes in our home at Air BnBs and hotels, and not in our home." They told my husband they feel unwelcome now. Husband and brother-in-law say I was abrasive and aggressive. I was genuinely trying to assert my house rules without being mean. I do struggle with expressing myself and I do want a respectful relationship with my MIL. AITA? Edit: It's not for a few hours or one day. They have to drive 2 days to visit us, so they stay with us over several days for Thanksgiving. She doesn't have a medical issue that prohibits her from taking off her shoes. I know about her medical issues. I have reminded her repeatedly over 13 years, but I can't watch her 24/7. She enjoys sneaking ways to walk in the house with her sneakers on, or outside in her socks an dthen wear the socks inside ("What? I don't have my shoes on."). Yes my husband should have brought this up. Why do I want a relationship with her? Because she's family? Some people even said they would divorce me over this. Wow. Second edit: UPDATE. After I got off work I called my in-laws. MIL picked up, and she wanted to talk with my kid and not address the issue, but she handed the phone to FIL and he and I talked about it. He said, "She's just the kind of person who sometimes is going to do what you tell her, but sometimes she's going to ... forget." I said, "I'm not hearing 'Sorry it won't happen again', so let's get a hotel or an AirBnB for Thanksgiving." He was excited for the AirBnB--we got an affordable cabin in the woods. We're all going to meet there. It's definitely more expensive, but I will have a much better time because I don't care if she wears shoes in the AirBnB (unless that's the house rule there!).

Jonas Bergström
Man Rejects Family Naming Tradition, Lashes Out at Parent for Celebrating Sibling Who Embraces It
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Man Rejects Family Naming Tradition, Lashes Out at Parent for Celebrating Sibling Who Embraces It

In our family it is tradition for the girls to be named after a flower, some examples Lily, Poppy, Rose and so on. I love the tradition and it is something that came from my family side. I have two sons and one girl. This is about my two sons and two DILS. My first son Mark married Kelly. Mark and Kelly had a babygirl and didn't follow the tradition. I was a bit sad about it but overall it is their kid. My other son Ryan and his wife Jenny, announced to the family that they are having a girl and will name her after a flower. This was over a family dinner They told me they will be keeping the tradition alive. I was really happy and gave them hug. I told them I am so excited for them and grateful that they are keeping the tradition alive. I asked if they would like to look at my family books, to see if a name pops out or if they wanted help. They agreed and I spent about a hour looking at names with them. The problem is mark and Kelly told me I was being a jerk. That I was never that happy when I learned about what they named my first granddaughter. That I need to apologize ASAP. I don't think I did anything wrong, but an outside option would be nice.

Jonas Bergström
AITA for putting more effort into decorating my son's room than my stepdaughter's?
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AITA for putting more effort into decorating my son's room than my stepdaughter's?

I (40F) have been with my husband (43M) for several years. He has a daughter (13F) from a previous relationship. When we started dating and I was introduced to her, he made it very clear that she already had parents and didn’t need another one—what she needed was an advocate and mentor. I was absolutely fine with that and have always tried to respect those boundaries. For the most part, our relationship is good. She’s a great kid. Now, we also have a son together (3M). He’s my first and only biological child, and I had wanted him for a very long time. Here’s the issue: I had a very specific vision for my son’s room that I’d planned well in advance. I painted two ombre walls that go from grass green to sky blue and transition into a dusty blue ceiling covered in glow-in-the-dark stars. His ceiling light has a sun-shaped lampshade, and his nightlight is a moon. He has a Montessori-style floor bed designed to look like a tent, a grassy rug, a ball pit that looks like a pool, tree trunk–shaped toy chests that double as chairs and a table, and a tree-shaped bookshelf. I paid for all of this myself. When it came to my stepdaughter’s room, we asked her what she wanted. She said she wanted a reading nook, so we created one with a small round mattress, a ton of cushions in her favorite colors, and a mosquito net canopy. She chose her wall colors (solid block shades), and we did the room together. We split the cost 50/50. The rest of the furniture in her room was purchased by my husband before I came into the picture, and he doesn’t see any point in replacing it since it’s still in good condition. As a result, I didn’t have much say in that space. Recently, after seeing my son’s room fully set up, my stepdaughter got upset. She said I clearly put way more effort into his space than hers and accused me of playing favorites because he's “actually mine.” I tried to explain that I didn’t want to overstep when it came to her room and that she made most of the choices herself. But now she feels hurt and like I don't care as much about her. I do feel guilty because I can see how, from her perspective, it looks unfair. But I also don’t know how to navigate doing more without violating the boundaries my husband and I set early on. I’m not her parent, and I didn’t want to push decisions onto her room. At the same time, I now wonder if I should have tried harder or been more involved.

Luca Moretti
Protective Sibling Calls Out Sister's Boyfriend For Stealing The Spotlight In The Middle Of Party Celebrating Her Acceptance Into Med School
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Protective Sibling Calls Out Sister's Boyfriend For Stealing The Spotlight In The Middle Of Party Celebrating Her Acceptance Into Med School

My sister (22) is starting med school in the fall. She has been dating "Jack" (23) since high school. He has been in college for five years now, changed his major twice and only has an associates. We were having a dinner to celebrate my sister, and my whole family was there. Jack decided to tell everyone at my sister's dinner that his parents told him they wouldn't pay for his schooling anymore. My sister started to comfort and reassure him. It pissed me off that she had to do that at her own party. I told the boyfriend I could help him with his resume, but he said he didn't need to work on his resume since he didn't have his degree yet. I asked what exactly his plan was, and he said he didn't have one yet. I changed the topic to my sister's upcoming trip she's taking with her friends. Jack then uses this to transition to talking about how he wants to apply to study abroad but is not sure how he will pay for it. I said I've always found the best way to make money is with a job. He glared at me, and my dad changed the topic. After dinner Jack came up to me and asked if I had a problem. I said I didn't appreciate him tainting my sister's event with his sob story about how he couldn't get a four year degree in five years. He said I was a hypocrite with a useless art degree that doesn't even use my degree in my job. I said that's irrelevant because I *have* a job and he should probably fucking get one too, because my sister is a student and can't afford to carry his worthless ass. He called me a self-righteous prick and left. I've been thinking about it, and I think I overreacted, and I could have just blown him off and not talked to him when he came up to me. I doubt cussing at him is going to convince him, so I probably shouldn't have done that.

Luca Moretti
Older Sister Snaps At Family For Tolerating Her Younger Sister's Bad Attitude
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Older Sister Snaps At Family For Tolerating Her Younger Sister's Bad Attitude

My sister is two years younger than me and has autism. Lately she’s been saying stuff such as “Get over it” “Don’t be a baby” “You’re stupid” Dumb little insults, etc etc. I’ve told her that it genuinely hurts my feelings, but she goes off again telling me she doesn’t care and that I’m a wuss, etc. I have tried to tell our mum about this but she told me every time, “She doesn’t understand what she’s saying, you need to give her time, she’s still learning what’s right and wrong to say.” Which is bullcrap, because she’s 13 and even with autism should know what’s okay and what’s not to say, I get it if she accidentally says something disrespectful without realising it once, but when she continues with an attitude and mean comments and insults, that’s too far and I think she knows it. I’m not saying I know her situation at all but I’ve told her how I feel. She should know by now. So a few nights ago, at the dinner table, I was saying something that happened during school that day and she blurted out, “Nobody cares!”. Silence. I sighed and expressed my annoyance, clearly frustrated since she’d interrupted me to be snarky. My mum saw the frustration in me and quietly told me, “Come on, you know she has autism. You can’t get mad at her, she doesn’t know that this is wrong of her.” I just bursted. I stood up and started yelling, and I was so mad that I can barely remember what I said but it was something like “I know she has autism but come on. She’s being a complete b-word (don’t know if the real word can be said here), and she knows it. I’ve told her how I feel so many times and she’s been all snarky and a-hole-ish about it. She has to know by now that she’s making me upset, accept it guys, she’s being a fat b- and we all know it.” I stormed up to my room and I’d lost my appetite. My family didn’t talk to me for that whole night, and my sister cried loudly basically the whole time. My family is now giving me annoyed looks when I walk by and they’re speaking to my other sisters but not me, they’ll give me lunch for school but they won’t talk and they’ll give me an angry face when I look at them. I don’t know if I should apologise for what I said. My sister looks genuinely really upset when I go by or do anything. Now, I know that girl, despite her autism she puts on a good poker face, but it looks so genuine and real this time around. AITA?

Elise Dubois
Crafty Redditor Outwits Sister Into Accepting The Worse Deal During Inheritance Split, Defies Family’s Demand To Review The Arrangement
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Crafty Redditor Outwits Sister Into Accepting The Worse Deal During Inheritance Split, Defies Family’s Demand To Review The Arrangement

My mother loved fashion, and really enjoyed dressing up. Her passion definitely inspired me to pursue a career in fashion and I currently work for a luxury jewelry designer. My sister ("Ashley"), on the other hand, went a more "traditional route". She's always looked down on me, starting even from high school when I was preparing my portfolio for art school, making comments about how I get to "color" while she had to do "actual work" like study maths. This behavior has never really changed, which has caused us to be somewhat estranged. Anyways, before passing, my mother brought Ashley and I together to her safety deposit box to split up her jewelry. Ashley immediately wanted the biggest blingy pieces. This is where I may have been an AH. I let her "fight" me for it, knowing that she was arguing over costume jewelry. My mother had a select few pieces of fine jewelry that were more dainty, so I let my sister think that I was getting the smaller leftover pieces. She's always been preoccupied with getting the biggest and best for herself all our lives, so I let her think she was doing the same now. Fast forward to today, I was wearing one of my mother's pieces at my aunt's birthday party. She began to reminisce over the piece (I guess they bought it together), and it slipped out just how valuable the piece was. My sister overheard and was livid. She insisted on going through my picks and wanted to re-split up the pieces. I said no, and she had a melt down at the birthday party. Our brother said I was an AH for using my knowledge as a jeweler against family, but I'm taking the issue here for a different opinion.

Elise Dubois